Your Attachment Style: Fearful Avoidant

The one who…

wants love but is terrified of it at the same time. Fearful avoidants crave deep connection but flinch at the thought of being hurt.

They’ve learned that closeness can be dangerous, so they keep their guard up—sometimes pulling people in, only to push them away when things feel too intense.

Hot and cold? That’s their specialty. One moment, they’re all in; the next, they’re shutting down or disappearing. It’s not that they don’t care—it’s that their nervous system is screaming “danger” even when love is safe.

They might sabotage relationships without meaning to, picking fights, ghosting, or staying in a state of emotional limbo. Their past wounds tell them betrayal is inevitable, so trust feels like a risk they can’t afford to take. But beneath the fear, there’s a part of them that deeply longs for security, love, and a connection they don’t have to run from.