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🏳️‍🌈Transforming the Queerly Attached from Insecure to Secure ✨Stop Self Abandoning! BOOK NOW to Practice Secure and stay within!

I don’t do too much, I just don’t self abandon

I don’t do too much, I just don’t self abandon. Showing up sure and secure? Very demure 😉

Imagine showing up in connection detached from any outcome other than this one: I will remain connected to Self.

It’s not only possible, it’s transformational.

Want to learn something new?
It’ll take practice.

Want to learn to be securely attached?
It’ll take practice.

Want to integrate these changes effectively and immediately?
Hire a coach.

Hire THIS coach if you’re ready for more than just a point in the right direction! More than a hype woman. Healing attachment wounds can feel intimidating and daunting. Learn to recognize your Self in a new way. Let’s get to work!

DM “Secure” to schedule your own Attachment Assessment.

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Very demure. Very Secure. Caitlin Clark. Authentic

Very demure. Very Secure. Caitlin Clark. Authentic af and down to look goofy. Very cutesy. The only outcome I’m attached to is the one where I don’t self abandon.

DM “secure” if you’re ready to practice secure with a coach! The road back from self abandonment doesn’t have to feel lonely.

#verydemure #verymindful #securelydemure #attachmentstyle #secure #selfabandonment #queercoach #caitlinclarkeffect #joolslebron #caitlin

Embracing @joolslebron very demure. Because all I

Embracing @joolslebron very demure. Because all I see is a Securely Demure Queen! 👑 Very demure. Very secure. Being securely attached? Very mindful. It’s all about mindset.

Want to learn how to practice secure? ✨Practice makes progress and having a coach makes sense✨

DM “SECURE” to get on your way!

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Very demure. Very mindful. Very cutesy. It’s a

Very demure. Very mindful. Very cutesy.

It’s a mindset y’all! I don’t do too much, I just don’t self abandon. Showing up in your head, in your feels and masked up? Not demure. Showing up sure and secure? Very demure 😉
#securelydemure

Learn to practice secure and connecting through conflict. Discover how your attachment style is affecting the way you connect to yourself and others.
DM “Securely Demure” to book your attachment assessment!

#verydemure #verymindful #verycutesy #verysecure #attachmentstyle #queercoach #lesbian #secureattachment #selflove #selfabandonment #queerattachment #jools #tiktoktrend #jeopardy

Krista took to Practicing Secure immediately. They

Krista took to Practicing Secure immediately. They show up with enthusiasm and curiosity in every session. Between sessions, we have daily contact to help Krista integrate the strategies! Krista is thriving and they are only HALFWAY through the 9 weeks. Crushing it. #SelfInvested #lesbian #queerattachment #clientreview #queercoach #attachmentstyles #SecureLiving #queeraccountstofollow #attachmentstyles

Our attachment wounds have driven us to compete, d

Our attachment wounds have driven us to compete, defend, contend and retreat. Yet by design, we were always meant to connect, build, lean in, and embrace. Embrace each other’s scars, weaknesses and inability to handle every moment with perfection. Because we aren’t perfect either! We just can’t be y’all!

Progress not perfection! That’s the goal of attachment healing work with Queerly Attached. Let’s embrace our scars, not as burdens, but as the bridges that lead us back to ourselves. Not around the pain but through it and over it. In vulnerability, we find strength and connection. In connection, we find attachment healing. When we learn to stay within, we learn to how truly connect to others because we are so connected to our own humanity. We can’t help but see theirs too. Helps everyone show up kinder in conflict.
✨✨✨✨DM “Secure”✨✨✨to learn more about YOUR attachment style.

#attachmentstyles #queerhealing #lesbian #queercoach #queerattachment #queerconnection #conflictresolution #secure #vulnerabilty #exmormon #singlemom

I love therapy. Everyday Tuesday at 3pm. In fact,

I love therapy. Everyday Tuesday at 3pm. In fact, I need to get headed there right now!! I also love the coaching I receive. Because they aren’t the same product y’all! If you’re looking for a flathead screwdriver and you keep grabbing the Philips…I mean come on, my shit is gay enough I don’t need to add tool analogies lol. You get me though? We aren’t the same. And working in tandem…holy shit 💪🔥Keep learning how to make it safe. It’ll work a lot easier when it’s safe, I promise. #attachmentstyles #coach #therapy #relationshipcoach #queercoach #queerhealing #mentalhealth #wecandohardthings

Do you see? It starts with you. First. This life i

Do you see? It starts with you. First. This life is yours. First. You change. First. Connecting back to you and planting your flag: I refuse to self abandon anymore. What kind of impact would that make? Do you see? #attachmentstyles #attachmenttrauma #makeitsafe #queeraccountstofollow #queercoach #kansascity #queerhealing #emotionalsafety #selfattunement

If your path has been one of self abandonment a

If your path has been one of self abandonment and an insecure attachment style: when you look back, please do it without judgement. Offer your past parts gratitude and forgiveness. Only way forward is with all of you. Can’t leave any parts behind. Judgement won’t encourage the integration and peace you desire!
Go easy on you, ok? ❤️

#selfabandonment #selfattunement #attachmentstyle #nobadparts #secure #innerchildhealing

Yep. That’s how the first day went! We got this.

Yep. That’s how the first day went! We got this. 💪🏻 Progress not perfection. 😉 #firstdayofschool #halfday #attachmentparenting #exmormon #lesbiansofig #momfail #back2school #5thgrade

We make these promises of forever to each other an

We make these promises of forever to each other and quickly forget them in the midst of conflict. What would it look like if you really let them see you? No people pleasing, no resentment, no self abandoning. Do you know what it feels like to have emotional safety? Ready to be confident through conflict? Make the choice to change how you show up. See what happens when you drop the masks.

Join this 6 week immersive experience amongst queer community at @mocbod

DM “secure” to save your seat!

#lesbian #kansascity #attachmentstyle #secureattachment #uhaul #queerrelationships

We are taught to fear conflict. In every conflict,

We are taught to fear conflict. In every conflict, there’s a choice that we often skip right over. A choice that shapes the outcome of the situation. The decision to either connect or contend. Conflict itself is neutral, but the way we choose to respond to it has the power to influence the future. The very next moment is created one choice at a time. Embracing this choice empowers us to navigate challenges with intention and purpose. Choose to connect through conflict. Or choose to contend against conflict. One fosters understanding and the other fosters resentment.

✨Ready to connect through conflict but not sure how? Get signed up for the Conflict Clinic.
✨DM “conflict” to sign up for 20 mins of 1:1 support. 🙏🏻Relieved, resolved and empowered.

#conflictresolution #connection #queerlyattached #lesbian #queerhealing

🗣️Empower yourself by recognizing your worth

🗣️Empower yourself by recognizing your worth – when you know you are somebody, you won’t settle for just anybody. Energy doesn’t lie y’all. Everyone can sense the confidence and self-respect that radiates from someone who values their worth. Surround yourself with those who uplift and appreciate you, because anybody who leaves you feeling like a nobody has no place in your life– let your own value and worth be your standard. The best boundary to make clear when dating is: I will not self abandon. Free Zoom call tonight for those looking to move secure through life in any season. Link in bio #selfworth #lesbian #secureattachment #securelysingle #attachmentstyles #queer

✨CONFLICT CLINIC✨ Get scheduled now with @quee

✨CONFLICT CLINIC✨ Get scheduled now with @queerlyattached! Imagine how much lighter your weekend will feel with a plan in place for conflict! The suffering is in the thinking y’all. Let’s get it heard and resolved. Virtual call or IRL @moc.bod #queerhealing #secureattachment #lesbian

Isn’t it about time we accepted that we are the

Isn’t it about time we accepted that we are the only thing we can change? We are the only thing we can control. We are in charge of our internal environment and we constantly allow our external environment to call the shots. If you’re tired of how it’s been going and you’re ready to leave old patterns behind, hit me up and let’s get your Attachment Assessment scheduled! #queerhealing #attachmentstyles #bethechange

🗣️FREE 1:1 CONFLICT CLINIC🤩Queerly Attache

🗣️FREE 1:1 CONFLICT CLINIC🤩Queerly Attached @moc.bod
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DM “LFG” to grab your 20 minutes!
✨20 MINS to chat. Feel ready and connected for your weekend!
✨20 MINS to save you the 2-3 DAYS of anxious/avoidant strategies when shit goes sideways!
Friday⏰10:00am-3:00pm
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The presence of conflict
isn’t as scary when you’ve
got the right resources.

I coach how to connect
instead of contend.

You can create the relationship
you’ve always wanted.
It starts with you.

First step is realizing the pattern ain’t working anymore!
DM “LFG” to grab your 20 mins tomorrow!

#conflictresolution #lesbian #attachment

✨Enrollment for Steps To Secure✨ We begin Augu

✨Enrollment for Steps To Secure✨
We begin August 27th! Secure your spot now. Making space for growth minded community! Come be a part of it. Sometimes we just need to be witnessed🙏🏻
👣Steps To Secure (link in bio)
* 6 Tuesday sessions @MOCBOD
* Queerly Attached workbook
* Community Support between sessions on video group app.
* Reduced fee 1:1 Coaching
* 1 Free Conflict Clinic
* 2 Live Virtual Webinars
$450
Flexible payment options available https://queerlyattached.as.me/

Next time you find yourself asking, “why am I li

Next time you find yourself asking, “why am I like this?”, try this shift in tone. See if you can trade self-criticism for self-inquiry. Be as CURIOUS about YOU as you are about “them”. When we approach ourselves with curiosity instead of judgment, we open ourselves up to growth, understanding, and a more grounded connection within. This curious mindset allows us to look inward without the swift critique that seems to follow. By embracing our personal needs, we can break free from shame and discover the boundaries required to protect our emotional safety. A sense of freedom to be ourselves is the result. Who knows, you might even discover your quirks are what make you unique and wonderful! Self compassion over self doubt all day.

****Steps To Secure series coming Fall 2024 @moc.bod *** DM “Curious” to get on the waitlist!
#lesbian #selflove #selfdiscovery #shamecycle #queerattachment
#secure

Imma say it louder! A relationship standard that

Imma say it louder!

A relationship standard that sets authenticity as the goal from go. If Queerly Attached has reach, this is my message.

“I will not self abandon. I am committed to that and my self. I do not want to date anyone who self abandons either because that does not brings us the authentic life we both want. Let’s agree that we will not ask the other to disconnect from self for the relationship.”

My love language is the language of self! What if that was an early standard? In fact, what if that became how you move in the world, not disconnected from self?

🥸What does disconnect look like? Self abandonment is a deeply rooted pattern of behavior where an individual neglects, dismisses, or rejects their own emotional, physical, and spiritual needs, leading to feelings of emptiness, disconnection, and low self-worth.

☹️Ignoring your own feelings, needs, and desires
🥺Prioritizing their needs over your own
😩Failing to set healthy boundaries for your needs
😔Allowing others to define your worth
😓Neglecting self-care and self-compassion
😤Suppressing emotions and thoughts to avoid conflict.

Self abandonment is the way we are taught to relate! It can stem from childhood experiences, trauma and even societal pressures. The consequences stack up quickly. Resentment is a big one.

🫡Learning the ways you are self abandoning is crucial for developing a healthier sense of self and fostering more fulfilling relationships.

How could this standard change your relationship? 🧐
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Change brings choice and choice brings power to cr

Change brings choice and choice brings power to create your life, a moment at a time. Music epic enough? Yo what if you really squared up with your fear of what comes after change? It’d be fucking EPIC!

Change feels scary. Change brings outcomes you can’t always control or see. Change often feels just too damn risky. You don’t want to risk your NOW. When you refuse to change, you risk your FUTURE.

Change also brings choice, and choice brings power, y’all! You have the power to create your life by embracing change. Feeling stuck? ALLOW the evolutionary experience you are meant to enjoy as a human being! Less doing, more allowing yourself to be. Getting clear on your goal will help you align with the path you need to be on to achieve it. So many choices waiting for you on the other side of this fear!! Change brings choice and choice brings power to create!!
#queerattachment #Thursdaythought #lesbian #power #secure #anxiousattachment #anxiousavoidantdynamic #queeraf

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